Is it true that Army BCT has gone soft? Is it true that more people p than ever because of this?Long story.?

I'm not in the military so I wouldn't know. I have had this friend for seventeen years. In fact, he and his children reside in my family's home. His ex-wife-a neglectful mother can't seem to get over their ended marriage, and started BCT the other week. Two and a half years ago, she requested a divorce the day he came home on leave from Iraq, seven and a half months later, three days after the end of his tour, she left a suicide not out(in her mother's home) overdosed on pills was found and had to go to the emergency room. Then she left the note out for days for her divorcing spouse to see it(conveniently enough). She used to physically attack him and call the mps when they lived on base-she hared me multiple times out of paranoia. She was on depression meds before and she concealed the entire pregnancy with their second child, getting no prenatal care, attempting to do things like exert herself during the last trimester to force a miscarriage and binge-drink vodka a bunch of times in the last trimester at Ft. Stewart in front of her husband who didn't know she was pregnant(but she did). Maybe this belongs in psychology. I haven't had anything to say about the extreme absurdity of the situation. He is like a battered woman though-he is so used to the extreme violence(chasing with a knife, wrapping a cord around his neck while laying in bed, punching in face,etc.) that he doesn't see these other things as big deals-like her returning his children dirty and un-bathed(even though she seldom has them). When I say she concealed an entire pregnancy(which less than 1% of women do-this is more infrequent than child molestation), she even moved back to Ca during his deployment and didn't tell her identical twin with whom she is close and lived with about the pregnancy-just popped out a baby one day, and he was forced to explain this to his commanding officers. I'm not going to talk about the other things, but do you ever see this in the Army? People that appear to have mental health issues and history of violence, joining the military for attention? It just seems a little scary, but again, maybe this ? is better in Psychology? She calls him crying about her job, her sad, childhood, her sad life, etc. Do people like this make it through Boot? Does the Army help get people the emotional help they may need un Basic? I used to help with the children but I had to quit because the whole thing started seeming a little weirder and weirder.